Anthony and I see the world differently. I am global, he is linear. I start 36 projects and finish 2. He starts 1 project and sticks with it until he finishes. Together, we make a great team.
My children are as different as night and day, too. One recent example made us well away of Sean’s beautiful way of “seeing” the world around him.
During Sean’s 5-year-old well care check, the nursing assistant was checking his vision using the standard eye chart. She asked him to cover his right eye with one hand and read the letters:
“O, K, H, D, N, R C, S”
Then she asked him to cover his left eye and read the letters:
“O, K, H, D, N, R C, S”
“Great!” she exclaimed. “Now, do it with both eyes.”
Sean proceeded to cover BOTH eyes and said, “But, I can’t see anything like this!”
We all cackled and Sean smiled with such innocence. Such confusion.
He did exactly what he was asked to do. Why were we laughing at him?
I grabbed my sweet linear thinking little boy and bear hugged him. He started laughing, too, and said, “she meant to look with both eyes!”
I looked deep into his crystal blue eyes. Yes, my sweet boy. That’s what she meant. But, I was thinking about so much more than an eye chart. I was thinking about how all of us see the world differently. Somehow, in our boxed-in and color-coded world, there is one right way to see the world.
This thought lingered with me for days.
God created all of us with different ways of seeing the world. Introverted or extroverted. Global or linear. Black and white or technicolor. With nice neat boxes or wide open spaces.
Why is one way better than another?
In God’s magnificent creative effort, the world is plenty big enough for more than one way of thinking and seeing the beauty around us.
These are a few ways I try to see the world with both eyes wide open:
1. Not everyone thinks like you or me. Give others the gift of grace. Their way might work, too.
2. When my way and your way is best and we know it to be fact, wait before you act. Pause and listen to others. You may learn something in the process.
3. Don’t try to control every little detail. They will work themselves out in time.
4. Know what your non-negotiables are and stick to them.
5. Make sure you live up to the same expectations you expect others to live up to.
6. The relationship is almost always more important than the disagreement, unless it involves a non-negotiable.
7. Always expect the best from others. You might be surprised by them and their best.
Would love to hear from you! What other tips would you add to the list above?
Hope your world is full of unexpected joy today!